Men Often Happier With Their 'Bromance' Than Their Romance

From Drugs.com - October 13, 2017

Men Often Happier With Their 'Bromance' Than Their Romance

FRIDAY, Oct. 13, 2017 -- In a decidedly male take on the BFF, new research shows that the emotional safety of a bromance might beat romance for some men.

A series of in-depth interviews with a small group of young, straight men revealed that the guys felt more comfortable sharing feelings and resolving conflicts with their male best friend than with their lover.

"The key differences we found is that romances are the sexual partner, and the bromance is the emotional partner," said study author Adam White.

The men his team interviewed said they "could be more emotionally open, without fear of being judged or policed, with their bromances, whereas they often were fearful of being their true selves with their romances through worry that sex may be withheld, they may end up arguing, or they may be judged negatively," he explained.

That could mean that romance is starting to lose some of its privileged status, White noted.

"In fact, some may consider the bromance a better option, as many of the emotional benefits are superior in a bromance," he said.

White is currently a Ph.D. candidate and lecturer of sport and physical education at the University of Bedfordshire in Luton, England.

The research team pointed out that the notion of "bromance" appeared to gain cultural currency around 2005, as a way to describe the increasing intimacy of straight male-male relationships as depicted in movies and on television.

To explore the phenomenon's impact, the British investigators conducted interviews with 30 men over a three-month period in 2014.

All were enrolled in the second year of their undergraduate studies. Most were white and described themselves as middle-class.

While all of the men voiced generally positive views of homosexuality, all were straight and had been involved in at least one romance with a girl, as well as at least one bromance with a guy.

Most participants said that -- sex aside -- they saw very little difference between the two types of relationships.

But nearly all (28 of 30) said they preferred sharing personal concerns and secrets with their bromance, the study found.


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